Love for me is... *Valentines Day Special*

Love is the purest bond that two people share. Love for me is the feeling of happiness, the feeling of comfort. Love is about those hugs which make you feel cared for, that someone will always be there for you. Love is looking into the other person’s eyes, knowing that his presence itself means the world.

Love is innocent. Love is delicate yet the strongest feeling.

Love is about understanding the other person. Love is about the concern. Love is about looking after each other. Love is sharing moments together, sharing feelings together. Love is that attraction, whether near or far, feeling closely attracted to someone. Love is about the little actions just to make the other person happy. Love is about opening up. Love is about putting your faith in the other person. It is about trusting your love in any circumstance.

Love is about respect. Love is about giving importance to the other person. Love is standing with them in every step of the way for life. Love is about accepting the other person for who they are. Love is about encouraging and motivating each other. Love is confidence. To love is to believe, to love is to trust. Love is the most beautiful and divine feeling. Being passionate, being real.

Today is the day to realize and value. The day to cherish all the moments with the significant other. Today is the day to celebrate love.

Seek this feeling of love with purity and honesty.

With Love.

Drama of Life and Death

The sages who came together to write the Upanishad set out to find the meaning of life and thought to themselves: “if the observer observes through the medium of consciousness, and the world is observed in consciousness, should not the same laws apply to both?”

Layers of awareness: 1) waking 2) dreaming 3) dreamless sleep

Interpretation:

1)    When awake the self in connection with the body and mind

2)    When dreaming the self is connected only to the body

3)    In the dreamless state, the self is detached from the body and mind

The sages say that a person should be awake during the dreamless state when the self is detached from the mind and body. When it is free from bounds and restrictions.

I have experienced this: SELF-REALIZATION.

I have seen my body and my consciousness detached.

To experience this, you need to be like a teenager, ready to risk it all. Not looking back or being hesitant. But why should we experience self-realization? When we are perfectly fine as we are?

“Just for the heaven of it”

But most importantly because every human questioning about it and has some of an idea about it. As human beings are eager to know, “who we are, what the universe is, and what the significance of the brief drama of life and death we play out against the backdrop of eternity.

You are what your deep, driving desire is.

As your desire is, so is your will.

As your will is, so is your deed.

As your deed is, so is your destiny.

(Brihadaranyaka IV.4.5.)

Human desire is so strong, that if we will to do so, so it will become.

i. Upanishad Simplified

When the Aryan came into, what is now known as India; brought their religion and spread the knowledge of their Gods and deities. They worshipped the natural elements because they are the power that has brought creation to life.

There are 7 powers, also known as Devas, mentioned in the Upanishad.

1)    Fire (Agni)

2)    Storm (Indra)

3)    Wind (Vayu)

4)    Night (Ratri)

5)    Dawn (Usha)

6)    Sun (Surya)

7)    Death (Yama)

It is believed that there is one Supreme divinity and these Devas are merely His powerful forms. Upanishad is a spiritual text which is compiled with knowledge of great spiritual Gurus. They teach how spirituality is related to everyday life. Everybody can pursue their life with the right conduct to reach ascension.

My understanding:

What is reality? What is Self? The Self is Him. Therefore, we are not only the creation but the creator. No, you do not need another life to find your Self. The purpose of life is to realize that you are God.

The Upanishad teaches that you do not need a religion, rituals, cultural practices for ascension. You just need to be one with Yourself. Your body itself will take you to the journey of self-realization.

These Devas which I mentioned earlier are the living pieces of evidence of God’s existence. The first step is to find the Oneness with the Devas. Unite yourself, feel them, imbibe the purity of these powers.

There is a beautiful quote written in the Upanishad to simplify this concept, “by knowing one piece of the gold, all things made out of gold are known: they differ only in the name and form, while the stuff of which all are made in gold.”

Okay, still didn’t get it. Let me explain:

We all know that God exists right? Yet we entangle ourselves and let our Mind entangle in everyday issues, our physical body, temporary emotional phases. We get so carried away in this illusion that we forget we are the creation and the creator. We made the creation to find the creator. Similarly, if we find one piece of the Supreme (ourselves), would we not find the Supreme himself?

Benefits of Being Single

There are so many plus points in being single. This is coming from a person, who has been single for quite some time now so you can trust me on this one. Being in a relationship is not a need, it’s is a want/will. What you need is giving yourself the same amount of love and pampering, as you would expect from a significant other. Yeh… you can do everything by yourself that someone else can do for you emotionally. Do you know what is the biggest benefit in that? That you will never let yourself down. A lot of things come along when you are in a relationship. Yes, this is also coming from a person who has been in a relationship for many years. With a lot of happiness that comes from loving someone, it can also bring a lot of sadness. Now if you are single, you will be self-loving, self-caring and not let yourself be sad right? Yeh, there can be a secondary entity who/which can bring you down, but you cannot be the sole reason to be unhappy.

Now talking about the fun things, do you have any idea how fun it is to spend the entire 24 hours to yourself? Focusing on your happiness and self-growth? You are not answerable, and you do not own anyone a justification. You can pursue all your hobbies and interest with all this time in your hands. You do not have to be glued to your phone waiting for the other person’s texts and calls. Nobody’s opinion will influence your decisions. Moreover, you have all this freedom and peace of mind.

To all my single people,

don’t feel bad for being single. Look at the brighter side and enjoy this time and spend it on yourself. Pamper yourself and be there for yourself. Be self-dependent if that’s even a word.

For my single people who are looking or waiting to find their significant other,

quickly enjoy your free time now, because sooner or later you will have a long rollercoaster journey to go through. Just Kidding!

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Now is a single life better than being in a relationship?

There isn’t a concrete answer. With how this world is coming about it has become more and more difficult in finding the right partner. When people do find love, over the years they give up for the differences which build up. So being single is playing safe because you can guarantee yourself happiness. If you want to be in a relationship, it is important to be emotionally, mentally and physically ready and also finding the right partner who you see a bright future with.

Whats More Important? Physical or Emotional Connection?

Physical connection and emotional connection are equally important for a balanced consummate relationship. Although I do believe that emotional connection is stronger and should be focused on more, especially in today’s day and age. I think that it has become easier for people to create a physical bond over-emotional or like the society calls it “no strings attached”. Possibly because physical connections are convenient? But is love passionate if it is convenient? It all comes down to the individual’s choice and how they want to conduct their love life. Any way of life is acceptable as long as it brings you and people around you, happiness.

According to me, for those who are seeking for a lifetime relationship should focus more on emotional compatibility. It is so important for the significant other to be not only your lover but your best friend. That friend whom you can go up to, reach out to, share your thoughts too – without thinking twice. It is important to have that understanding between the two of you. Both of you may not be on the same page at all times, but once you accept each other you can understand the other person’s point of view. That kind of acceptance, understanding, intimacy is important to keep the relationship energized for life.

The pleasure of physical bond can make you reach great heights of enjoyment and dissolve the differences whereas with emotional bonds can make you feel comfortable and loved for the person you are.

Now how many of you breezed through the word consummate? Yeh, that word on the first sentence. In simpler words, a consummate relationship is like true love. Let’s throw some psychology at this – for people who want to know. According to Sternberg’s Theory, also known as the drama triangle (to all the Bollywood lovers – don’t we all like love triangles?!), there are 3 important aspects for consummate love. Yes, this was the only time I paid attention in Psych class and got an A+ on my test. The three factors are: intimacy (closeness/togetherness), commitment (dedication) and passion (physical attraction). Following I will write terminologies in the simplest form just so you can show your knowledge about relationships to your friends. Intimacy + Commitment = Compassionate Love. Passion +Commitment = Fatuous Love. Passion + Intimacy = Romantic Love. Since this is not a thesis paper on relationships I will not elaborate.

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Since my question was which is important? For me, compassionate love is important! What type of love is important for you? Comment below and tell me why.

Is Staying Single Okay?

Coming from a person who has experienced both sides, it is completely okay to staying single. It is more than okay if you have never been in a relationship. As long as you are happy with yourself and love yourself, you do not need somebody else to complete you. You do not need to depend on somebody else to make you feel happy or feel loved. Finding a significant other in my opinion should not be a need, if at all should be a want.

If you happen to fall in love and willing want to share your love, it should be with someone you want to grow with. Someone you can learn from. Someone who supports you during your good days and bad days. Someone who encourages you and motivates you. More so, someone who helps you grow as an individual. In my books, that is the ideal partner! Because at the end of the day we are different people, each living our journey. How amazing would it be to come across a companion who enhances the beauty in your life? Go for it, if someone comes along your way who wants to share adventures with you. But always remember that can enjoy your present and your future with yourself too.

Speaking from my experience I can say that being single is a lot more peaceful and blissful than being in an unhappy relationship. And it is not easy to find the right person. So, let things take their time and work their ways. All that matters is that you should be happy with yourself.

Give yourself some love and do not wait for somebody else to complete you.

Comment your opinions and let’s discuss more! Let me know if you think if being single is okay or you should find a partner to spend your life with.

Never Have I or ...Have I?

Never have I ever done something I regret.

Never! I take 1 second to decide and never look back

Never have I ever tried guessing someone's password.

I have… shhh… and I am very good at it. Don’t tell anyone

Never have I ever been chased by a dog.

I Have! OMG do you guys even know dogs in Secundrabad, they are not welcoming.

Never have I ever done something I thought I would never do.

I have! Always do!

Never have I ever slipped and fell on nothing

I have… All the time, Nothing new

Never have I ever sent a text to the wrong person

I have…. accidentally on purpose

Never have I ever been sarcastic

NOOOO… NEVER WHATT??? SARCASM? me?

Never have I ever fallen off a bike

I have, that’s me! *Note: always wear a helmet.

My First Fracture

Never have I ever slept all-day

I have! Does sleeping for 22 hours straight count?

Never have I ever fallen in love at first sight

Never! Wouldn’t that be a romantic moment but I want to!

Sounds Like a "Them" Problem

Self-confidence is a skill that I try developing every single day, whether it is reflected in my behavior, words, or even my thoughts. The minute I catch myself self-doubting, I immediately correct myself. I have recently learned that it is very important to trust yourself. You are going to be with yourself for a long time now, it is good to have a loving relationship with yourself.

There have been many times these past few weeks where I have questioned myself, “what if”, “if this, then what”- trying to assume the consequence before even acting upon it. Questions like these often lead to thoughts like “you know what, forget it” “never-mind” “I won’t even because it won’t matter anyway”.

First of all, you are right!

Second of all, your feelings are valid!

Believe in yourself, because if you won’t then who will? Assure yourself, which will help you feel motivated and grow your confidence. If people give you reasons to not believe, give yourself reasons to believe. You do not need to modify your thoughts or words according to what others “may” feel like. Because at the end of the day what matters is your happiness, if you are happy others will be too!

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Other’s must learn to deal with you the way you are if they want you in their lives. Or like I say “sounds like a them problem.”

From the Top

Hey!

Before you start reading, go get some popcorn and a cup of chai because we will go on a long adventurous trip. A story filled with drama, love, tears, comedy and a little bit of action. Everything you would basically see in an Indian TV Show.

Thought you had seen it all? Nothing like my life… where every day is a new twist.

So, I decided to blog about my experiences, thoughts, and opinions about love, work, health, spirituality.

Leave a comment in this blog if you would want me to talk about a specific topic! Or if you have questions for me.

P.S.

Content could get hot and steamy.