Sounds Like a "Them" Problem

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Self-confidence is a skill that I try developing every single day, whether it is reflected in my behavior, words, or even my thoughts. The minute I catch myself self-doubting, I immediately correct myself. I have recently learned that it is very important to trust yourself. You are going to be with yourself for a long time now, it is good to have a loving relationship with yourself.

There have been many times these past few weeks where I have questioned myself, “what if”, “if this, then what”- trying to assume the consequence before even acting upon it. Questions like these often lead to thoughts like “you know what, forget it” “never-mind” “I won’t even because it won’t matter anyway”.

First of all, you are right!

Second of all, your feelings are valid!

Believe in yourself, because if you won’t then who will? Assure yourself, which will help you feel motivated and grow your confidence. If people give you reasons to not believe, give yourself reasons to believe. You do not need to modify your thoughts or words according to what others “may” feel like. Because at the end of the day what matters is your happiness, if you are happy others will be too!

Other’s must learn to deal with you the way you are if they want you in their lives. Or like I say “sounds like a them problem.”