Whats More Important? Physical or Emotional Connection?
Physical connection and emotional connection are equally important for a balanced consummate relationship. Although I do believe that emotional connection is stronger and should be focused on more, especially in today’s day and age. I think that it has become easier for people to create a physical bond over-emotional or like the society calls it “no strings attached”. Possibly because physical connections are convenient? But is love passionate if it is convenient? It all comes down to the individual’s choice and how they want to conduct their love life. Any way of life is acceptable as long as it brings you and people around you, happiness.
According to me, for those who are seeking for a lifetime relationship should focus more on emotional compatibility. It is so important for the significant other to be not only your lover but your best friend. That friend whom you can go up to, reach out to, share your thoughts too – without thinking twice. It is important to have that understanding between the two of you. Both of you may not be on the same page at all times, but once you accept each other you can understand the other person’s point of view. That kind of acceptance, understanding, intimacy is important to keep the relationship energized for life.
The pleasure of physical bond can make you reach great heights of enjoyment and dissolve the differences whereas with emotional bonds can make you feel comfortable and loved for the person you are.
Now how many of you breezed through the word consummate? Yeh, that word on the first sentence. In simpler words, a consummate relationship is like true love. Let’s throw some psychology at this – for people who want to know. According to Sternberg’s Theory, also known as the drama triangle (to all the Bollywood lovers – don’t we all like love triangles?!), there are 3 important aspects for consummate love. Yes, this was the only time I paid attention in Psych class and got an A+ on my test. The three factors are: intimacy (closeness/togetherness), commitment (dedication) and passion (physical attraction). Following I will write terminologies in the simplest form just so you can show your knowledge about relationships to your friends. Intimacy + Commitment = Compassionate Love. Passion +Commitment = Fatuous Love. Passion + Intimacy = Romantic Love. Since this is not a thesis paper on relationships I will not elaborate.
Since my question was which is important? For me, compassionate love is important! What type of love is important for you? Comment below and tell me why.