What are the top qualities of your perfect mate?
It got me wondering when I came across this thought of what qualities are important for me in a guy. What is my ideal match whom I would say yes without a second thought? Who knows how my actual partner might be like, or maybe he comes across this blog and smiles to himself? There is no harm in thinking.
The most important quality would probably be being passionate about love and life—someone who wants to grow in the relationship. I would want the guy to love me unconditionally and accept me for the person I am. I read somewhere that when you passionately love someone, you are willing to be with them through thick and thin. Furthermore, I feel like with passion comes all the other elements like concern, care, being affectionate because you want to be there for that person through their happiness and their sadness because it matters to you. Every little gesture can mean so much for someone if there are genuine feelings behind it. These gestures, actions, and words may seem trivial at first, but this builds the relationship and makes it stronger over time.
Another essential quality, which is the guy must have is honesty. Two people should start a relationship with honesty; this can avoid a lot of misunderstandings and conflicts in the future. Trustworthiness also brings surety. In order to build trust in a relationship, it is essential to be honest. Nobody is perfect, and people unintentionally may make mistakes, but if you have the freedom to be open with each other, that is such a beautiful quality to have. Tell the truth about yourself and give the other person a chance to fall in love with that person. Usually, what happens is that when two people go out of their way to make the relationship look pretty in the beginning, and eventually they get tired out because that is not who they are. One would never feel like they are going out of the way if they genuinely want to make another person happy.
With that brings loyalty. When one is passionate and honest, there should be no space where the partner questions loyalty. It is essential to know that if you signed up for the commitment, there is no turning back. And I want a partner who has that courage and is responsible for loving me enough to commit for life. Talking about responsibility, I want a mature and reliable partner—someone who has an aim in his life, someone who knows his priorities. I want someone who can keep a healthy balance between work and personal life. Most importantly, I want an emotionally stable guy who has the depth to understand and is open-minded.
Moreover, that person should be like a friend who will listen to you and encourage you in life—someone who is concerned about your well-being. Sensibility is also an outstanding quality, so he understands to make the most out of the time spent together. Because being in a relationship is so special, and time flies, especially when you're having fun. Him making sure to make every moment count can make the time worthwhile. Lastly, believing and having faith is essential. Him believing in me, believing in the love and believing in the relationship, knowing that there will be issues, but also knowing that staying and overcoming tough times will be worth it.
Extra Credit: Sense of humor, patience, creativity, good cook
It is not like one has to learn these things, which I have mentioned. If you genuinely love the person, all these things will naturally come to you. It is really about genuinely feeling for and loving the other person.